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The Missing Fourth Trimester: How To Give Your Baby The Best Start

Last Saturday, ibu Family Resource Group KL successfully hosted the 1st session of our LIVE Parenting Panel, in conjunction with ibu Mindful Parenting Summit 2019. We sat down for an hour-long Q&A with Michelle Cross Byrom — a mother of four, a registered nurse and leader of La Leche League Kuala Lumpur (a support group for breastfeeding mums) — to talk about "The Missing Fourth Trimester: How To Give Your Baby The Best Start", and how you can prepare for this special time after birth.

If you missed the full LIVE interview, you can view it here:

To make it easier to navigate and find what's important and relevant to you, we've "timestamped" the video by listing below all the topics that we covered, so you can jump to just the parts you want to listen to.

**************************************** 0:41 - About ibu Family Resource Group KL and what we do

2:42 - Speaker introduction

5:21 - Michelle talks about the Fourth Trimester (from age 0 to three months old) and what makes this particular period so unique

6:48 - What can pregnant and new moms do to prepare themselves for this period of transition from newborn to baby stage (first three months)?

10:15 - What are some of the other ways that mums can help their babies adjust to life outside the womb?

13:28 - Q&A: Are we spoiling our babies by providing too much physical comfort? Should babies learn to self-soothe at this stage?

17:16 - Michelle shares her own experiences about the Fourth Trimester, stressing that every baby is different; what's important is understanding the difference between what is right (written in the books) versus what is best for your baby according to his / her needs. Keyword: "being flexible"

22:06 - Q&A: My baby cries and fusses all the time. I've been doing my best to meet his needs but my methods aren't working. What am I doing wrong?

23:36 - Q&A: My child is 10 weeks old. How do I make him nap during the day? He seldom naps on his own and falls asleep in my arms after breastfeeding. But when I put him down, he wakes up. His total sleep in 24 hours is 10-12 hours which isn't enough for his age.

26:04 - Q&A: How do I know if I have postpartum depression (PPD)? Or is it just baby blues?

30:41 - Q&A: How can I manage my time with my newborn? I'm exhausted.

32:59 - Q&A: My family tells me my baby isn't getting enough milk every time she cries. What should I do?

37:32 - Q&A: How do I tell people that my husband and I really need our personal space to learn to be parents? How do we deal with unsolicited opinions?

39:28 - Q&A: Is it ok to feed my baby formula if I'm struggling to breastfeed? What if I don't have enough milk (low supply) and my baby isn't latching properly during my first few days at the hospital?


If you've got any questions at all, please don't hesitate to comment below this post, or just PM / DM us. Alternatively, you can also reach out to ibu's Support Groups Coordinator Namrita Deora at We'd love to hear from you and are more than happy to assist and support you in your new parenting journey.

Once again, we'd like to express a big THANK YOU to Namrita Deora for being so kind to host our very first LIVE Parenting Panel and to our speaker Michelle Cross Byrom for her time, invaluable advice and tips! ibu Mindful Parenting Summit 2019 takes place monthly, from August - November 2019. We'll cover a different topic each month, with a different speaker. So stay tuned for the upcoming announcement on the next session of our LIVE Parenting Panel in September!



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