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7 Mistakes I Made During Pregnancy (So You Don't Have To)

Updated: Sep 8, 2023

Pregnancy is a magical journey but it can also be quite overwhelming. As an expecting mother, I was filled with excitement and joy but I also made some mistakes along the way. My intention in sharing my experiences is to help other pregnant mothers avoid the pitfalls I encountered.

Remember, we're all learning as we go, so don't be too hard on yourself.

Here are seven mistakes I made during my pregnancy that I hope will guide you to a smoother and more enjoyable journey.

1. Neglecting the Bond with Your Partner

Amidst the excitement and preparations, it's easy to get caught up in the pregnancy journey and unintentionally neglect your relationship with your partner. Keep the bond strong by dedicating quality time to connect and communicate with each other. Go on date nights, take walks together or simply share your feelings and fears. Involving your partner in prenatal classes and doctor's appointments can also deepen their connection with the pregnancy and make the journey even more special for both of you.

2. Ignoring Prenatal Education

One of my biggest mistakes was underestimating the importance of prenatal education. I thought I could figure it all out as I went along but this approach left me feeling unprepared and anxious at times. Attend prenatal classes, read books and consult with your healthcare provider. The more you know, the more confident and empowered you'll feel throughout your pregnancy and beyond.

3. Over-Googling Symptoms

It's natural to be curious and concerned about any changes or symptoms during pregnancy but turning to Dr. Google for every little thing led to unnecessary stress and worry. Remember that each pregnancy is unique, and not all experiences align with the information found online. Instead, reach out to your healthcare provider when in doubt or worried about any symptoms. They are your best resource for accurate and personalised guidance.

4. Skipping Exercise

Exercise is beneficial during pregnancy but I was simply lazy and avoided it. Gentle activities like walking, prenatal yoga, or swimming can improve your well-being, reduce discomfort and prepare your body for childbirth (labour requires strength and stamina!). Always consult your doctor before starting any exercise routine.

5. Listening to Unsolicited Advice

During my pregnancy, I received a ton of unsolicited advice from well-meaning friends, family, and even strangers. While some of it was helpful, much of it was contradictory and added to my confusion. Don't feel obligated to follow every piece of advice you receive. Trust your instincts and consult with your healthcare provider for guidance tailored to your specific needs. Remember, every pregnancy is different, and what worked for others may not necessarily work for you.

6. Neglecting Mental Health

Pregnancy hormones can play havoc with emotions, and I failed to acknowledge the importance of mental health. It's normal to have moments of doubt or feel overwhelmed but don't hesitate to seek support from your partner, friends or a mental health professional. Surround yourself with a positive and understanding support system to navigate through emotional challenges.

7. Create a Birth Plan

In my birth experience, I hadn't thoroughly explored the various pain management options available, such as epidurals, nitrous oxide (more commonly known as laughing gas) or natural pain relief methods like breathing exercises. I hadn't discussed the potential side effects or benefits of each option with my healthcare provider. As a result, I felt unsure and overwhelmed when it came time to make decisions about managing the pain in the labour room. Preparing for labour and delivery can reduce anxiety and ensure your wishes are respected. Discuss your birth plan with your healthcare provider and ensure your partner or birthing support person is aware of your preferences.

Suggested reading: Role of a Birth Doula

Pregnancy is a time of joy, growth, and learning. Embrace the journey with an open heart, knowing that it's okay to make mistakes. By sharing the mistakes I made during my pregnancy, I hope to help you avoid similar pitfalls and enjoy this beautiful experience to the fullest.

Prioritise self-care, educate yourself and reach out for support when needed.

Remember, you are not alone, and with love and care, you'll be well-prepared to welcome your little bundle of joy into the world. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

About the writer

Hazel is a full-time working mom. Together with her supportive husband, they practise respectful caregiving at home and enjoy bringing their 2-year-old daughter to the park every weekend. Professionally, she is women empowerment coach.

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